adults are hard to fathom

there are countless amount of tradition to follow;
countless cultures to adopt just so fengshui or whatever said so.
but shouldnt the happiness & joy of the wedding couple be more important than these?
what if in the midst of following all these tradition or cultures lead to neverending arguments?
is that still worth following?

nobody can say for sure following these cultures/tradition will definitely ensure a happily ever after ending, yet almost all adults will still insist to follow accordingly.

take for example confirming the number of attendees.
friends & colleagues are the easiest, we can just get their confirmation directly.
whereas for relatives, we have to rely on our parents to take the initiative to ask our relatives.
not just so, close relatives we have to distribute wedding invite 1 by 1 to their doorstep.
why? because culture set this rule we have to follow.
as for those not so close relatives, i got a scolding when i demand my parents to call & ask for confirmation on attendees.
mom said, "its rude to call people and ask how many people is attending?"
yes, mom think its rude to call & seek confirmation.
but she isnt aware of the difficulties i'll face when confirming with hotel on the no. of tables.
i cant possibly tell the hotel prepare around 25-27 tables.
they need a confirmed number & probably 1 reserved for last min. thats all.

thinking that doing the betrothal exchange is already difficult enough,
planning of table arrangement is the 2nd challenge, i guess i was wrong to say so.
suddenly the planning of actual day timeline is the most challenging.
we have to stick to the auspicious time range as given by fortune teller;
make sure we have at least 6hrs in between for videographer to edit the morning highlights,
plus finish both side tea ceremony, change attire (only for bride) plus an outdoor shoot.
imagine the horror to know our given auspicious time range is either 5-9am or 11-3pm.
5-9am, we will incur extra surcharge for photo&videographer + MUA;
11-3pm, our videographer will not  have enough time for editting.
its like a headache worse than table arrangement & betrothal exchange.
sometimes i just hope if ur not gonna lend us any helping hand, at least dont create any.
its frustrating enough having to cope with these & yet i have to cope with extra trouble.
dont u just wish for a parents who put their kids' well being as priority?
how i wish for a parents who would tell me, "go ahead, both of u do the planning & we'll follow. whichever works fine for the both of you. "

upon reading bout these back end stories, are u now afraid of getting married?
well, i just hope this will be e very last obstacle for us.
no more please, no more. if not i swear im gonna breakdown like real soon.

time goes by so fast...

omg i was supposed 2 come back & update my previous entry.
please forgive me for not doing so. ;x
sept gone by in a whirlwind and not its oct already! GOSH!
and 1st week of Oct went by having settled 1 of e bigger task of wedding!
thats correct, the so call 过大礼!
hafta order 喜饼 + buy pigs' legs can & distribute to relatives.
oth than these there's e Martell, oranges, some chn food which i dont know.
all in all its alot to prepare for jux 1 single task!
*phew its over & done with. :D
the next biggest challenge is planning the table arrangement!
OMG! those table lacking 1 or 2 person is the hardest!
is like u cant just slot in any people to sit with the rest right?
*headache* cldnt slp well last night thinking of all these.
anyway, some photos & short update b4 i go back 2 work stuff.

cele Raju's bdae 4 her last Tue.
owe her a big favor which the least i cld do is cele bdae 4 her.
cldnt endure my long thick hair so i went to trim.

this is how i look b4 trimming.
thick looking hair over here.
even my fringe has grown so long too.
the 过大礼 last Sat w my parents & bf "exchanging" e stuff.

here's a close-up of what we prepared in total.

this is e 喜饼 we ordered from sweetestmoments.

damn nice! regretted not ordering more sia. ;x

small lil' finger sized pastries.

dont think that looks r deceiving.

those square sized cakes & swiss rolls r my fave!

shall order that again for baby shower or oth occasions. lol!

am heading off to my bridal shop at 430pm 2dae.

have got my actual day gown fitting, omg im damn gan jiong!

pray hard i did not gain extra pound since the photoshoot.

and we gonna c our album layout too!

i shall ask them 2 gimme e raw photos so i can give zhen my solo gown photo,

which will b updated into e ppt slides for morn gate crash! ;)

this whole week am so busy with everything!

2dae have got gown fitting, tomorrow gotta head down tanglin pp collect medal.

evening booked my ipl session too. wed night got a farewell dinner.

thur gotta rush out report 4 fri submission and fri night got farewell dinner too.

omg, come wkend its time 2 go hunt 4 my wedding heels liao.

老天爷，请给我多一点时间！